News Letter 5844-043
12th day of the Tenth month 5844 years after creation
January 10, 2009
Shabbat Shalom Brethren,
This past month we have had a number of problems with the web site. We have grown and exceeded past the capabilities of the server. We crashed a couple of times. On top of this my personal computer packed it in, and I was forced to change to a new one. This has been time consuming.
Many of you have not received the News Letter on various occasions because of these crashes. I apologize for this and we are working on this and hope to have it rectified soon. If you have missed a News Letter, all past news letters can be read at the Sightedmoon Newsletter Archives.
We are sending this email out on a different server hoping to reach the nearly 10,000 readers now on the e-mail list.
A brother has pointed out to me that he felt I was trying to sell the DVD on the Sabbath. That was not my intention and I do not want you to buy or sell on the Sabbath. I do want you to watch the DVD which you can do at https://sightedmoon.com/sightedmoon_2015/?page_id=251 for free, which explains for the most part the Sabbatical and Jubilee cycles that this web site is all about. Warning you of the coming curses, which we are already in the middle of, as you can read in Lev 26. That is what I want you to know exactly, where we are in the chronological order of prophecy.
This past month I have been receiving a great deal of feedback from people who are very upset at the various messages I have taught this month. Some have said I was anti this or anti that group. Brethren let me say this as clearly as I can. I am not anti any one. I am against all those who twist and pervert the truth of the scriptures, of Torah. So, if you call yourself a Christian or a Jew or anyone in between, I will point out those things that are wrong according to Torah. I do not care what group you have put yourself in, if you have perverted the scriptures then I am against you, just as the Apostle Paul was, as shown to us in Romans.
If what I have been saying is wrong then you have to show it with scriptures and not with emotional verbal abuses. If on the other hand what I am saying is true, then maybe you have to change your way of worshipping Yahweh, and begin to worship the way He told us to in His book. This past month has taken a toll on me for speaking out.
Brethren in other news a great number of break throughs took place this week. I need you prayers as we share this message with other Torah teachers. You can also help by asking your group leader if they have watched the DVD, and if not show them where they can watch it, on this web site at https://sightedmoon.com/sightedmoon_2015/?page_id=251. We want our brethren to be ready, and I am learning that some groups are already storing food for the famine but had no idea of the Sabbatical year.
Nazarene Israel and Norman Willis sent out a very appropriate News Letter early this week. Now with the war in Gaza taking place, some groups are once again telling their followers that we are now entering into the beginning of the 7 years of tribulation. I have posted Normans reply to this in the forum area under Are we in the last days. You can read at this link https://sightedmoon.com/sightedmoon_2015/forum/viewtopic.php?p=459#459 Norman and I do not agree on all things, but we do agree this is not the beginning of the 7 years of tribulation.
Many of these groups have said we are in the tribulation many times prior to 2000 and then they took another guess at 2001, then 2006, 2007, 2008 and now again 2009. But some of you have not realized they keep changing the dates each year. People continue to get excited and then they are disappointed. Brethren watch the DVD and learn the order of prophecies as shown to you by the Jubilee cycles. Once you do this then you will know.
Let me add to this. If you follow the chronology of the Jubilee message, you will not be rattled by those who try and scare you go to Israel. You will know exactly when things are to happen and in what order. Judgement is on the house of Israel right now and will not be finished until 2033. You’ll know what I mean if you have watched the DVD.
As well, our sources in Washington have acknowledged that the government is aware of the dire situation the economy is in. They say that the press is not reporting all that is going on and that economic problems are bigger and worst than reported. Our message of the coming famine and epidemics is ringing closer to home than most realize. With the Obama plan, the USA is going to be spend 1.2 trillion on kick starting this economy. You need to follow the money to see how this is getting very ugly.
The same Washington source, also acknowledges that they have seen this report in the WSJ. http://online.wsj.com/article_email/SB123051100709638419-lMyQjAxMDI4MzIwOTUyMTkxWj.html Again, coupled with the information we are teaching about the coming famine and pestilence, our message is turning heads. I hope to be able to report more on this news very soon.
This week we are going to look at a subject that my wife and I just learned once again. We have been married over 30 years and we still need to grow and learn those things we thought we had figured out in the beginning.
I hope it is profitable to both spouses. You can read it https://sightedmoon.com/sightedmoon_2015/?page_id=444 and you will want to read this repeatedly, so print a copy and keep it handy to refer to later.
Husbands, Honor Your Wives
You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. I Peter 3:7
Take special notice men that your prayers may be blocked if you are not giving honor to your wife. This is a huge statement.
For those of us who are husbands and fathers, we are to bestow “double honour “to our wives,” first as wives, then as mothers. God has given us an awesome responsibility as the head of our household and part of that responsibility includes the way we are to treat our wives. James makes it clear to us as husbands our wives are to be cared for and treated with honour and understanding. They are equal heirs with us in God’s sight and worthy of the honour that comes with being of equal status. Some might have difficulty understanding how honour can be bestowed upon another by someone who is a leader and yet it happens when leaders of different countries come together. They usually show signs of respect for each other in their greetings, the environment they are meeting in, and the way they speak to each other. Many times they exchange gifts or have special recognition ceremonies and they try to always respect the other’s status and position. As God’s appointed leader of the household, we are to give our wives equal honour for they are just as important to God as we are. This is so important that we are warned God may not hear and/or answer our prayers if we do not accord our wives the honour they deserve.
One of the ways we can honour our wives is to praise them both publicly and privately and be thankful for them. Proverbs 31:28 speaks of the godly man who blesses his wife and expresses his praise and thankfulness to her verbally and by his actions. A good, godly wife is extremely valuable and she generates trust in her husband’s heart by her dedication, hard work, fear of the Lord, and commitment to her husband and her family. In return, she is worthy of praise and honour both now and when she comes to the judgment.
When was the last time you made a special effort to praise your wife and recognize what she does for you and your household? Do you make a special effort to give her “double honor”? If you don’t, then maybe that is why God isn’t responding to your prayers. Rise up and bless her and give her the praise she deserves. The result will bless you in return and bring happiness to your home.
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain….. Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.” Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her the product of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.
Respect and Love,
By Harold & Bette Gillogly
When a wife respects her husband, it motivates him to show her love
GTO Seeds for Growth, Volume #75
You can’t get what you need by depriving your mate of what your mate needs.
Have you ever wandered why the Bible commands husbands to love their wives and turns around and commands wives â€“not to love, but to respect their husbands?(Ephesians 5:33)
If you have been out and about lately, you have probably heard of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs who wrote the book Love and Respect and conducts Love and Respect Marriage Conferences around the country with his wife Sarah. Last month we had the privilege of hearing Dr. Eggerichs as he addressed a large crowd at the Smart Marriage Conference in Atlanta, Georgia. Since the conference was a mixture of secular and Christian attendees, the speakers were to speak to issues and not promote “religion.” Emerson had the crowd in the palm of his hand as he showed how men primarily need respect and women primarily need love. With many anecdotes and stories, he deftly established that premise without once referring to the Bible or Christ. At the end of his dramatic but humorous talk, he concluded: “And isn’t it amazing that over 2,000 years ago the Apostle Paul in the book of Ephesians wrote “husbands love your wives ” and wives see that you respect your husbands” There was a collective, audible gasp from the crowd before they broke into loud applause.
We have been reviewing his book since and have decided to make our own observations about Love and Respect. Wives, this Seeds article is specifically addressed to you about respecting your husband â€“ though, husbands, you can sneak a peek too. Don’t fret now, next month we’re coming back to you, husbands, about loving your wives.
Why is respect so important for a man?
A man and his work are practically inseparable! So much of his self worth is derived from his vocation. That is why the question men ask men when they first meet is: “What do you do?” Not “How are you doing?” Not “How’s your wife and kids?” Not “How do you feel about some social issue?” But rather, “What is your work, your vocation?”
Man was created to work. God gave Adam work to do in Eden even before He created Eve he was to tend and care for the garden (Genesis 2:15 NLT). That is why a man gets so frustrated and discouraged when things are not going well at work. That is why many men work so hard to succeed that they become “workaholics” and even neglect their wives and children. A similar pride and honor are seen in the military where men will even lay down their lives for their comrades.
According to Dr. Eggerichs, men have a desire (1) to work and achieve, (2) to protect and provide, (3) to serve and lead, (4) to analyze and counsel, (5) to have shoulder-to-shoulder friendships and (6) to have sexual intimacy. If a wife fails to respect her husband in these areas, he will generally fail to show his wife adequate love. She then will not show respect and he, then, will not show love. Thus you have what Dr. Eggerichs calls the downward “Crazy Cycle.”
He contrasts this with the “Energizing Cycle.” When a wife respects her husband, it motivates him to show her love, which motivates her to show him respect, and thus you have a continuing energizing cycle. Now, who should take the first step? Dr. Eggerichs suggests that the mate who considers himself or herself to be the more mature take the first step to break out of the “Crazy Cycle” and enter the “Energizing Cycle.” Since there is plenty written about sacrificial love and how to show it, it is only fair that we should start this two part series with “wives see that you respect your husband” there just isn’t much written about respect in today’s marriage literature.
How can wives show respect to their husbands?
Though Dr. Eggerichs gives many ways to show your husband respect, we thought we would list ten suggestions from our own experience:
1. Speak highly of him and to him in public â€“ never put him down or make him the victim of your humour with others. For instance, making references to the fact that he isn’t making enough money (to do such and such) will humiliate him as an assault on his ability to adequately protect and provide for his family.
2. Take care of yourself properly to look attractive for him. Though you may not be able (who can?) to compete with all the images of beauty he is bombarded with in advertising, media etc., you definitely should “paint the wagon” as best you can. If you want him to “have eyes only for you, make sure you don’t give him sore eyes,” even though you may be wrestling with the kids all day long.
3. Determine to be unified with him on childrearing practices. Don’t fight him rather reach agreement with him on what educational and discipline procedures you both will enforce. (Everybody wins with this suggestion.)
4. Spend some time working with him, even if you can’t really help in the work itself. Eggerichs speaks of shoulder-to-shoulder time when perhaps not a word is said, but your presence WITH him is unmistakable.
5. Seek his advice and counsel. Actually go to him with some problems you want him to help solve â€“ not just when you want a sympathetic ear. Men shine as problem solvers. Let your husband shine on you.
6. Write your husband a note telling him how much you appreciate his perseverance at providing a living for his family. Note something specific about it such as getting up early each morning, traveling so far each week, working at a job he may not like very much, eating sack lunches when he’d rather eat out, etc.
7. Find out your husband’s love language and shower him with it often. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, can help with this. The five languages are: Words of affirmation, Touch, Gifts, Acts of service and Time. Which one does your husband need the most?
8. Learn a little about his favorite sport or hobby and participate or encourage him in it. Don’t complain about the time he spends at it unless it’s an in appropriate amount. Even then, don’t just complain” talk calmly with him about it and the affect it is having on you and the family. Use “I” messages, not “You” messages.
9. Find a way you can share with him together in ministry. It may be in showing hospitality to others in your home, teaching together, going on a mission trip together, doing a service project together, etc. “We” ministry is a very powerful relationship builder.
10. Initiate sex with him regularly and enjoy giving him fulfillment. Don’t leave it up to him to ask and ask and ask again. You really show your man honor and respect by willingly and joyfully tending to his needs in this area. Generally speaking, a satisfied man WANTS to show his woman that he cares for her in ways that speak love to her.
Now, you may be saying that he doesn’t deserve this kind of respect, and that you will show him respect WHEN he shows you he really loves and cares for you. Dr. Eggerichs says, You can’t get what you need by depriving your partner of what your partner needs. So who is going to decide to be the mature one first?
Respect must be unconditional.
We often speak of unconditional love. We accept it “ believe it “ we make sure husbands understand it! God commands that we love with no strings attached. What we haven’t accepted or believed is that God commands wives to respect their husbands unconditionally. It’s not that your husband doesn’t need your love (see Titus 2:4) or that he isn’t commanded to respect you (1 Peter 3:7) â€“ rather it is about what you each need most. In fact, we are all commanded to show respect to everyone who asks us to give them a reason for the hope we have within us (1 Peter 3:15 â€“ But you must do this in a gentle and respectful way â€“ see also 1 Peter 2:17).
But what about the real difficult cases where the guy just continues to act unloving? Wives, unless there is abuse, addiction, affairs, criminal activity or demanding that you violate your conscience, you can find reasons to respect him if you look for them. Check out Philippians 4:8 (NLT) where we are commanded: And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.
We are to fix our thoughts on what is positive, and think about those things. Even when the husband isn’t a believer, 1Peter 3:1,2 commands: In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
There is no conditional or IF clause in wives showing respect to their husbands. Try it! Dr. Eggerichs suggests giving your husband the “Respect Test.” We recommend you try it and see the results. Say something to him like, “I was thinking about you today and thought of several things I really respect you for. ” Then wait. Or slowly leave the room, and see what he does. Most men will be eager to know what those “several things” are. He may even follow you out of the room just to hear more. So have something ready to share when he asks for them. Try it! You might be very pleasantly surprised with your husband’s response.
Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
STRONGS # 5399
FOBEVW Pronounced Phobeo
The word that is now translated respect comes from reverence
to reverence, venerate, to treat with deference or reverential obedience
To learn more on this valuable subject go to the Eggerich web site at http://www.loveandrespect.com/
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